Of life and how we live it

From the moment we are born, we are subjected to endless and persistent ‘education’. Schools, families, media – all bombard us with tons of information. We are told…everything. And we are taught nothing. What this so called education does, is shape us and fit us into a mould, that defines for us what is and isn’t acceptable, what we should and shouldn’t do, say, eat, wear, what dreams to dream, what goals to chase. It defines for us success and failure, happiness and unhappiness. And we are brainwashed into thinking that there are things we have to do/have/possess, in order to feel the way we want to feel and see our lives the way we want to, so we can be who we should be. This way of thinking and living creates nothing but misery. We try our entire lives to obtain that which we are told we need, we strive to change or control our physical environment. And we foolishly believe, that if we can control everything around us, we will feel better about ourselves and we will become the person we are supposed to be. But we can’t control it all. We will never have it all figured out or put together as we want it. So we spend our lives fighting life itself, and then we wonder why we’re unhappy, unfulfilled and downright depressed. Something is missing.

Now here’s a thought, that some of you might find…well, ridiculous. What if life is supposed to be lived the other way around? What if we change who we are, so we think a different thought, so we can feel about life in a different way, and as a result experience life differently? Thoughts leading to feelings leading to actions leading to changes.

Nah, I hear you say. How am I supposed to think differently, when everything around me prompts a completely different response? The answer is simple, yet profound. And it’s not the first time you come across it. Do not react, rather create. Easier said than done? Think of it this way. Whenever exposed to or confronted by something, do you react instinctively, do you do or say the first thing that comes into your head? Most of us do exactly that. The response is formed without us even being aware of it. It is calculated and created by our subconscious mind based on everything it holds – memories, past experiences, hopes, doubts, fears, ‘education’. It takes shape, it comes to the surface et voilà, the reaction is unleashed upon the world. Sometimes followed by satisfaction, but quite often by regret. We’ve all been there – “I shouldn’t have done that, I could have reacted differently, Now why did I do or say that instead of something else….”.

What it really comes down to is choice. Choice to speak, act and choose differently. And that begins with deciding, first and foremost, who we are, and more importantly – who we want to be. To decide what kind of life we want to live, what kind of world we want to see around us. And then make the choice as if we already are that person. Decide to be kind and act out of kindness, decide you are generous and display generosity, decide you are at peace and shine that peace onto others. For we all carry within us a spark of divine light, a grain of the universal goodness. It is ingrained in us, in fact, it makes us us. Years and years of fear-based ‘education’ will make us think of us and them, dividing us from the world around us and closing us off to all the goodness we could experience. We choose to act out of fear, where we are here to express and experience nothing but unconditional love. It is within that duality, that contradiction, that all of life’s choices arise. Do you live your life from a place of fear, or do you live it from a place of love? All other thoughts and emotions are a byproduct of these two.

Fear makes us hate, control, envy, imprison. Love sets us free, inspires, motivates and expands our souls. To live out of love is to live the highest life of all. But how do we learn to live that way? It’s nearly impossible to consciously condition ourselves to do that. The solution, as always, lies within. We must make the expression of love – towards ourselves and towards others – our highest priority. And to do that, we have to open not just our minds but before all our hearts, to pure unconditional love. And the best way to do that is through meditation.

When we close our eyes and sit in silence, when we shut off the world and go within, we open ourselves up to the very source of love, and of life itself – our divine nature. We let in the light, energy and unconditional love of the universe and allow it to settle deep within us. The more we do that, the more of it we have to give. And the more of it we give, the more of it there is in our world.

So start your every day with a pat on the back, congratulate yourself for making it to another day. And looking at your reflection in the mirror, declare to yourself and to the world who you are today. Not tomorrow, not a year from now. Today. Smile at strangers, help an old lady cross the road, give small change to a homeless person. Say Thank you and Please. Do this and you will have a totally different experience of your world. And you will feel happier. Because you are not here to please anybody, to impress the crowd, to win it all. You are here to become, each day and one moment at the time, the best version of the highest vision you can possibly have of yourself. The most important thing you can give yourself and the world is that, which you have always had and what you always were – unconditional love and light.

Get up, go forth and shine…

Namaste.

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A quick guide to meditation – Part II

‘Meditation’ seems to have become a buzzword of sorts lately. Countless apps, blogs, articles, pages upon pages talk and teach about how to meditate, why meditate. We are overwhelmed with information on the subject. It’s only logical that one should take a closer look at all this information, trying to find a unified truth, a simple guide that would shows us, in words plain and simple to follow, how and why we should engage in this practice, as old as humanity itself.

I’m not going to list the countless benefits of daily meditation, I leave that to you to explore. But what I’ll try to do, is give you something useful, something you can take and use on a daily basis, together with a brief explanation of what meditation really is and why it works.

Looking at all the available information out there, I can’t help but notice something that, well… quite frankly bugs me. There seem to be two very different ideas about meditation floating around. A lot of people see it as a tool for relaxation, something to do at the end of a long stressful day so they can take the edge off and calm down just a bit. Or sleep better. Or even brag about, using it as a tool in a competition for ‘most enlightened in the neighbourhood’. And while any reason to get a person to meditate is in itself a good thing, this way of thinking gets people to miss what meditation is really all about.

Which is the second way of seeing it – the purpose of meditation is to bring awakening, awareness, enlightenment and spiritual growth. And that, my dear friends, is a life’s work. It’s not a quick fix, not a pill you can take whenever life gets a bit tougher. It’s a way of life, a way of seeing life, a way of being in life. And like all lifelong pursuits, it’s done one day at a time. One meditation at a time. One breath at a time.

So at this point I can almost hear you asking – Yeah, yeah, enough with the theory. How do we actually do it? The answer is “Be still and be quiet”. It is in stillness and in silence that we let go of the world around us, and we turn inward, where peace and light exist. Meditation will not help you find inner peace, for you never lost it in the first place. It will rather help you remember that you’ve had it in you all along. All you have to do is let it shine. And that you do in stillness and silence.

Noise exists everywhere. In the room or home around us, but also in our own heads. The endless stream of thoughts that never seems to quiet down is just as distracting as the neighbour upstairs, playing with his power drill on Sunday morning. Learning to quiet one’s own mind is probably the biggest challenge you will face. That is the bad news. The good news is that with time and practice, you can become the master of your mind. Believe me, it’s possible. And once you do, you gonna take this whole game to a totally new level.

Begin small, and let it build up in duration and depth. Choose a time when you won’t be disturbed. Go to the quietest room in the house. Switch off your phone, TV, stereo. Create a bubble of silence. Wear loose, comfortable clothes. Sit with your spine straight, your hands in your lap, palms on top of each other facing up. Close your eyes. Notice all noises and distractions around you. Acknowledge them, then mark them irrelevant and let them go. And bring your focus to yourself.

At first all you need is to relax. Start at the top of your body, with your face muscles, jaw, neck. Focus on each body part and feel it relax, one after the other. Shoulders, arms, down to the fingertips. Chest, abdomen, legs, toes. Visualise all the tension and discomfort in your body draining out of you into a puddle on the floor. And for a few moments just sit there and breathe. Bring all your attention and awareness to your breath. Watch it, don’t force it or try to control it. Just observe your body moving with your breath, your chest going up and down, the feeling of air at the tip of your nostrils.

Now see inside your body, in the centre of your chest, a cloud of dark smoke. It’s the sum of everything negative and out-of-balance in you – anger, sadness, fear, doubts, stress, worry, illness and pain. See it coming out of every cell of your body and concentrating into that cloud around your heart. Feel the weight and the pressure it puts on your chest.

And now, one breath at the time, watch yourself slowly exhaling that dark smoke. Let yourself draw a breath, and as you let it out, see a small puff of dark smoke leave your body. And as it does, see the cloud in your chest become just a touch smaller. Without strain or tension, continue to breathe, and count your breaths on their way out. Until all the black smoke has left your chest, until you are left clean and fresh. And feel the lightness on your chest, feel the energy in your body flowing freely, now that you have freed it from this heavy burden. Smile at yourself, congratulate yourself.

When you first start out, your mind will wander. You will get distracted, thoughts will pop into your head. Don’t stress, it’s quite normal. With more practice it will happen less and less. Just notice that thought, mark it irrelevant, and let it go saying to yourself – I see you, and I will deal with you later. For your first meditation commit to a certain number of breaths, say 50 or 70. And make sure that at the last breath you count, you’ve let go of all the smoke. As you progress with the practice, let the count go higher. Increase by 5 or 10 every day. Soon you will get to a point where the smoke is all gone, but you can’t bring yourself to stop, that’s how peaceful and quiet it is here.

After you’re done, do not jump off your seat. Gently open your eyes and slowly bring your awareness to the world around you. Get up slowly, stay quiet if it feels ok. And take that feeling of peace into your day, or sleep. Until the next time.

Take this as a starting point and try to do it every morning and every evening. It’s ok if you miss a session, do not feel guilty that you’ve ‘broken the chain’. Just  make an effort next time. Soon it will stop being something you make yourself do, but it will rather become something that is part of your life and part of who you are.

In upcoming post I will write about different meditation techniques that you can use to keep the practice more varied. But I will also spend a little more time on the subject of why it’s good to meditate, how it works in the long run and what’s the purpose of it all anyway.

Until then, happy meditating!

 

Namaste.

Welcome!

Dear Reader,

Let me give you a warm welcome and introduce you the very first post of all that there is yet to come around here. And let me reassure you, there is a lot to come. Truth is, everything happens for a reason and comes in due time. In short, now is the time. For everything. Literally.

But first, let’s have a little talk about the purpose of this blog.

Now, obviously enough, your soul had something in mind when it gently guided you here. And it’s even more obvious that we share the same interest. (And we’re happy about it. :))

This blog has been designed as a sanctuary for higher thought, higher being, higher self. The topics that we are going to discuss here shall cover a vast scope of subjects in the spiritual and philosophical domain, may it be in terms of awareness, meditation, relaxation, yoga, and even on the meaning of life. After all, it’s all about energy exchange. We are all one, we are all connected, near or far, aware or not, we all play our significant part in the mystery we call “life”. This awareness that all is one, and one is all, is the very concept, which we shall strive to convey here, transforming it into simple words.

This is the place to share opinion, knowledge, and life experience to the ultimate goal of raising the vibration of human beings as a whole. Everyone in your surrounding environment, who ever gets in contact with you, is touched, influenced, and affected by you. One way or another, your (non-)presence changes lives. But you probably know that by now. Just keep that in mind, when trying to comprehend the bigger picture.

That’s all for now, folks!

Happy reading!

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