The first seven years are critical for any child’s upbringing, so they say. This is the time to teach the child to walk, talk, think and basically, make him or her human. So they say. This is also the time to form their values and opinion on general matters. The time to plant the seed of love or hate as inherent attribute to their personality. In other words, to make your child a lover or a hater. It’s all your responsibility anyway. And fault.
Yesterday, I attended a social event that often provokes strong feelings (both positive and negative) and seldom indifference. An event particularly concerning sexual freedom. Yeah, that’s right: a pride parade. So I had the chance to see two different types of upbringing – one child holding a sign with an insulting phrase directed to gay people, and another one, brought to the parade by her open-minded mother. Both children, of nearly the same age, had a totally different facial expression. The first, holding the sign, looked so much like a grown-up – that angry and judging look could make any adult hater proud. The other one was walking freely, holding her mother’s hand, smiling and enjoying the love in the air. That ostensible contrast at that early age got me thinking. The first child will certainly grow up to be a natural born hater. She will never accept people different than her. She will never learn to understand those, who fall beyond the frame of her own mindset. And God forbid, one of her children happened to be gay, she’d probably never speak to them again and forget they even existed. The other girl, on the other hand, will probably grow up to be at least as open-minded as her own mother. She will naturally accept all people, who are not like her. She’ll always promote freedom and support human rights. And if one day any of her friends or family comes out, she’d pat them on the back, congratulating them for the courage to be honest.
In brief, it’s all up to you to make your kid a lover or a hater, but if you insist on pursuing the latter, then here’s what to do. First, start by telling them how people with different sexual preferences are no good. Then explain that this relation is not normal and Mother Nature explicitly proves that. Gay people can’t possibly reproduce, right? There you go. This is unnatural. On every possible occasion you have to tell your infant child that those people, who are attracted to people of the same sex or have sexual intercourse with them are pure evil. That they were sent by Satan himself to test our human will and values. And by no means, give your child the opportunity to make their own decision. You are the parent, you know better. Time and time again, you must emphasize on the harm “those wicked people” bring to humanity. Tell your kid that homosexuality is actually a sin, a disease so bad that it’s contagious, so your child must never get anywhere near such riff-raff. Your kid has no other chance but believe you. You are the Super Authority after all. And when one fine day they get a friend, who is apparently not straight, you must not, I repeat, must not allow them to be friends, ever. Instead, you must do your best to discontinue all contact immediately, so your precious infant never has any gay friends. That would be such a shame! You, Mr. Adult Hater, have all the power in your hands to teach your child everything life has taught you – that is, to name a few, different people have no rights whatsoever (and as far as you’re concerned, they never will), they could never marry and have a normal family like you would, they could never love each other as any straight couple would, and of course, they could never have children. Basically, teach your child to live your lie as long as possible. Only then you can rest assured that you have successfully brainwashed your offspring and they will too, in turn, brainwash the generation to come.
Or… you could take another path. You could teach your children that it doesn’t matter who you love. It doesn’t matter if they’re black or white, orange or blue, catholic or protestant, Jewish or Muslim. It doesn’t matter where and how their object of desire lives. All that matters is how big is the sacrifice they’re willing to make for the sake of love. But teach them wisely, because sadly enough, prejudice does win sometimes. That’s why it is so important to give children a chance. A chance to make their own mind, a chance to decide for themselves, rather than inheriting the mindset of their parents. That’s why you should give your children the freedom to learn from experience, rather than only providing them with your own. And that’s why a new generation with a new mindset is more crucial now than ever before. After all, soul has no sex. Neither has love.