If you ask someone what they want from life, they’d probably say “I want to be happy”. If not already rich, of course. Otherwise, they would probably say they want to be wealthy. 🙂 Along with health and wealth, happiness has become some chimerical aspiration that seems so hard to get. But what is happiness? What does it mean to be happy? Is it to feel good right here, right now, no matter what or it takes some effort?
Both, I’d say. As I see it, happiness is a state of mind. In fact, this is the natural state of the soul. Feeling good is not some unattainable illusion, but sometimes it indeed seems hard to find. And it is so, because more often than not people have the tendency to look for it on the outside. We somehow believe some external factor could make us happy – be it some particular circumstance, a dream come true, a situation long awaited for, or another person. Most of us believe something else would make us happy. Buried deep under the daily routine, earning a living, struggling in our own unique way, we tend to forget that our soul doesn’t need anything. All of your wishes and dreams, all of your ambition and aspiration are in fact a product of our conscious mind. Soul needs nothing. It doesn’t need money, a successful career, a big house, or even a partner. All you have to do is look inwards, rather than search for the Truth everywhere else.
There are people, who are always complaining. There are people, who are always grumpy, discontented and unhappy. They never seem to find the reason to feel good, because “Life is a bitch”, “It all sucks”, or “I never get what I want”. Nothing’s ever good enough for them. On the other hand, there are people, who appear to be happy by default. Just like that and without much effort. They are always smiling, regardless of the circumstances. These people don’t take life too seriously. They don’t seem to need other people to make them feel good. But what makes the difference? The overall approach to life. Your mindset makes all the difference. Getting to that happy place is not at all that hard. And if happiness is what you want, but you don’t seem to manage getting there right now, I’ll give you a few clues to guide you.
First of all, you need to do a thorough reconsideration of your life. A positive one. Start by counting your blessings. You might not realize it, but you’re probably luckier than most people around you. You surely have a shelter and food on the table. You probably have friends and family to be grateful for. So here’s your starting point. Make a mental list of all your positive qualities that make you who you are today. Give credit to yourself. After all, there’s only one you out there. Then add everything that you have for the time being that you are thankful for. Your health, job, opportunities and so on. Because you are indeed lucky. For there are people, who constantly live in very poor circumstances – war, hunger, humiliation and oppression. While you are reading this, children are dying in the arms of their mothers and people are struggling to have something to eat. Millions of people are suffering right now somewhere on Earth for various reasons and if you’re not one of them, you already have all reasons to feel good. So, why don’t you? Because you want more? Because it’s never enough? Remember, all you see around is an illusion. It is all fake. Life is a scene and we all play our part, but none of this is really happening. So stop looking for happiness around you. Stop making such a big deal out of everything. As long as you occupy this body, you mind will always be there to tell you there’s more to it. Don’t listen. You don’t need this or that to be happy. You already are. Don’t take anything too seriously for you’re only here for a while. Whatever issues you might have right now, it’s only temporary. It’s nothing but a phase and sooner or later, it will be over. So don’t let yourself hurt too much. It’s all an experience, good or bad, it’s nothing but experience. And know that whatever you’re fighting against right now, it will pass. If you have any health issues, for example, it’s all in your hands to make it all alright. First, by having the proper attitude, and then, by working on your discipline. Your body is an instrument, never forget that. And if you treat it well, it will certainly pay you back. Meditate, eat healthy, go out in nature, work out. Stop poisoning yourself and make this life count. Truth is, you don’t need that much to feel good as you think. Just stop for a moment and look around you. Life is beautiful and there are so many things to be joyful for. Isn’t it so that a child, the sun, nature, or beautiful music would make you smile? Follow your dreams, but be aware that you don’t really need anything. And if for some reason, you don’t get what you want, know that there’s a reason for that. A good reason. Find the joy in the smallest things and do your best to make every day count. And once and for all, stop worrying. About anything whatsoever. If there’s something you can do about it, then do it. If not, well… acceptance is a good manner to deal with everything that gets in the way.
Remember, happiness is a choice. It is already there, inside of you. Your soul is nothing but pure wisdom, light, and peace. You already have everything you need to be happy, so reach out to it. To the inside. This is the key. Just choose to be happy. And as the song goes, “Don’t worry, be happy now…”